When you really like someone, the hardest thing is talking to them. It isn’t easy to learn how to keep a conversation going with your crush. As soon as you see your crush, your mind instantly blanks because all you can think about it how cute they look. Luckily, keeping a conversation going with a crush is a common problem. If you want to learn how to keep a conversation going with your crush, just use the following steps for easy, interesting conversations.
1. Try Open-Ended Questions
Your goal is to use open-ended questions so that you can keep the conversation going. If someone can respond to your question in one word, the conversation is going to die out quickly. Instead, ask a question that requires a longer answer. At the very least, use a question that can easily lead to another question. For example, asking someone if they like sports isn’t technically open-ended because it can be answered in just one word. This question still works though because you can follow up with questions about their favorite sports to watch, the sports they like to play and their favorite teams.
2. Use a Compliment and a Question
Compliments are always one of the best ways to get a conversation going with your crush. The trick is to add a question at the end of it. If you just compliment your crush, then they’ll thank you and the conversation will end. Instead, add a question about the compliment so that they have to give a more in-depth answer. For example:
– That is an amazing shirt. Where do you get it?
– Your meal looks amazing. Did you cook it yourself?
– Your hairstyle is gorgeous. Where do you go to get your hair cut?
3. Go for Fun Questions
If you are only getting to know your crush now, you might not be comfortable talking about deep issues like politics or religious beliefs. To keep the conversation fun and light-hearted, you can ask questions like “If you could only . . .” or “Would you rather” questions. The following questions are a great way to keep the conversation going in a fun, upbeat manner.
– Would you rather be excessively busy at a job you love or bored and slacking off at a job you hate?
– If you were given three wishes, but they can’t be for material things, what would you wish for?
– If you could pick anyone in the past or present, who would you choose to spend an afternoon with?
– Would you rather be the most attractive, most popular or smartest person in the group?
– If you could choose your first name all over again, what name would you pick and why?
– What are the three things you would bring along with you to a deserted island?
– Describe the happiest day in your entire life.
– Would you rather be the worst player on an amazing team or the best player on a bad team?
– Who has had the most influence over your development as a person?
– You are only allowed to eat five different foods for the rest of your entire life. Which foods will you choose?
– What quality do you like the most about yourself?
– Would you rather give up your smartphone or your car for 30 days?
– You are stuck in the same cabin for the next two years. If you could bring five books with you, which books would you pick?
– Do you believe that people start out life inherently good or bad?
4. Make a Great Impression With S.O.F.T.E.N.
If you want to know how to seem likable and interesting, S.O.F.T.E.N. is your best friend. This acronym is an easy-to-use guide to making a good non-verbal impression on someone.
Smile: Start off with a smile so that you seem friendly and ready to engage in a conversation.
Open: Make sure that your posture is opened up so that you appear interested in the conversation. Never close your arms or turn away from the other person.
Forward: Lean forward into the conversation to show that you are interested in what the other person is saying.
Touch: Touch shows interest and that you like someone. This can be shaking hands or a gentle touch on the elbow.
Eye Contact: Eye contact shows that you are interested, while avoiding eye contact may make you seem uninterested or like you have something to hide.
Nod: When you nod while the other person is speaking, it shows that you are listening and agree with what they are saying.
5. Go for General Conversation Topics
While there are a lot of questions that would be interesting to talk about, you always run the risk of making the conversation feel like an interrogation. When you first begin talking to your crush, try using general conversation questions. These question might be a bit boring, but they will make the conversation feel more natural and normal. Once you have had a general conversation, you can move on to more interesting topics.
Some easy conversation starters include:
– What do you think of the weather?
– What have you been doing since I saw you last?
– How are you today?
– Have you read any good books (or seen any good movies) recently?
6. Search for Common Ground
Finding shared, common ground is important. It is great for keeping a conversation going with your crush, but it is also important for the future. For you two to have a real relationship someday, you will have to have shared interests. These types of questions will help you find out if your physical attraction is matched by common ground and similar interests.
Some of the best questions to get started with may include:
– Do you enjoy traveling?
– If you could travel anywhere in the world, where would you go?
– Who is your favorite author?
– Have you ever traveled to other countries before?
– What type of music do you like?
– Do you prefer reading a book or watching a movie?
– What would your dream vacation be like?
– Where did you grow up?
– Do you like going to concerts?
7. Beginning a Conversation in the Workplace
Talking to a crush at work can be extremely uncomfortable. If they know you like them and turn you down, you will have to keep working with them everyday. Because of this, it is generally better to play it safe. Ask questions like you would ask any other co-worker or friend. Your main goal for work crushes is to very slowly build a rapport and a relationship. After you have been talking for a while, you will start to have a better feel for if they like you back or not.
Some easy conversation starters for at work are:
– Do you think it is too hot (cold) in here or is it just me?
– Do you have your vacation planned out already?
– How was your weekend?
– What is your favorite restaurant to go to around here for lunch?
– How is your day today? Are you super busy?
8. Breaking the Ice on Your First Date
If you are reading this sub-heading, then congratulations! You finally got your first date with your crush! Now, you just have to find the right things to say. The first date is your chance to find out if you have common ground with your crush. It is your chance to find out what their childhood was like, their favorite hobbies and what they do for fun.
If you need some help breaking the ice, try using the following questions:
– Are you a dog person or a cat person?
– Where did you grow up?
– What was your childhood like?
– Are you close to your family?
– Do you enjoy reading? Who is your favorite author?
– What types of movies do you like?
– Who is your favorite actor to watch?