You have found the perfect guy, and you are convinced that he is the one for you. Unfortunately, he says he just wants to be friends, but his actions show differently. If he wants to be just friends, why does he hang out with you all the time? Why does he add adorable emojis to his texts? Is he just playing with your feelings or does a part of him actually like you?
He Says He Just Wants to Be Friends, But His Actions Show Differently
Unfortunately, a guy probably won’t tell you what is going on in his mind. He has told you that he just wants to be friends, so you listened to him and are trying to be just friends. At the same time, he keeps acting like he is more than just friends with you. You planned on listening and trusting what he told you, but his actions make you confused.
Even if he really does want to be just friends, he might unintentionally send mixed signals. In some cases, he genuinely likes you and just can’t have a relationship right now. There are a number of different reasons why a guy might say he just wants to be friends, but act differently.
1. He Doesn’t Realize That He’s Flirting
This is a common reason why a guy might seem like he likes you when he says that he doesn’t. There are some guys who are natural flirts. Other guys are just nice people who don’t want to hurt anyone’s feelings. Either way, the guy’s behavior may make it seem like he is interested, even when he has not. He has done the right thing by just telling you how he feels, but he doesn’t realize that his actions are making you confused.
2. He Doesn’t Know What He Wants
The human heart is an amazing, confusing thing. It is possible to like multiple people at once, to have multiple goals in life and to be confused about everything. He might like someone else and want to wait for her. He could be trying to hold off on relationships while he works on living out his dreams. Whatever the case, there is a strong possibility that he just doesn’t know what he actually wants.
3. He Doesn’t Have Time for a Relationship
The problem might not be you or his feelings for you at all. In some cases, the guy just doesn’t want a relationship of any sort. There are many driven men out there who want to focus on their own goals in life before they ever try to have a relationship. He might want to have a stable career and a house before he looks for a wife, or he may just be too busy to devote time to a partner. Whatever the cause, he might just be too busy to have any kind of serious relationship.
4. He Just Got Out of a Relationship
If this is the reason for his behavior, you should definitely listen to him. People heal on different timelines. Some people can move on weeks after a serious relationship ends. For other people, it can take months or years. The good news is that he is smart enough to realize that he isn’t ready for a new relationship, and he doesn’t want to make you a rebound girlfriend. Unfortunately, this means that the only thing that you can do is wait for him to heal or move on to someone else.
5. He Genuinely Isn’t Interested
This is a very real possibility. Many people say that they want to just be friends as a way to let someone down easy. He may still smile at you, text and talk to you because he likes you as a friend and doesn’t want to hurt you. Unfortunately, he might not realize that his behavior makes it seem like he is actually interested.
How Do You Know If He Likes You as More Than a Friend?
As a rule, you should just listen to a guy if he says he wants to just be friends. He might not have feelings for you at all, or he might not be ready. Whatever the case, you should respect the way he feels and listen to him.
If he genuinely does like you as more than a friend, there are some common signs that he could be developing feelings. Texting you morning and night is definitely a sign that he might like you in a romantic way. Trying to spend time with just you or rearranging his schedule to have time for you is another sign. If he likes you a lot, he might remember small details about your life or interests. He might go out of his way to surprise you. If it seems like he likes you as more than a friend, just be patient. Sooner or later, he will figure out what he wants.